People who won't do as they say or say what they mean.
Casual approaches from casual people - you know, the trash that doen't take my CLEARLY defined chosen approach method seriously.
"Subs" who have nothing to offer.
"Adult babies", CDs who don't look good, "service" subs who can't perform good housekeeping, people who try to top from the bottom, do-me subs, losers, wimps, liars, fakes, narrow-mindedness, lack of culture and sophistication, people who don't respect themselves and/or others, non-consensual cruelty, conservative politics, lack of mindfulness.

REAL D/s.

Total surrender to me.

Graciousness, generosity, impeccable manners, self respect and respect for others.

Receiving gifts, recognition that my time has value, being taken shopping, high heels - mostly boots - latex/rubber and leather.

Receiving NSA house-service - a dedicated house-servant performing his chores to perfection is amazing!

CBT, NT, caning, needle play - especially permanent piercings as a marker of possession.

Complete rubber encasement for prolonged periods of time.

Single tails, extended scenes, public play, making movies.

CHASTITY - Being The Key-holder

High protocol D/s.

TRUE slavery BIG TIME - especially when a permanent collar is involved.
The people at Axsmar Captivating Steel do great work - Gotta love those Germans!

Human Ashtray

Boot Licking

It is a massive fantasy of mine to tour the fetish scene around the world with a dedicated slave and to document the experience.

KINDLY DO NOT SEND ME "FRIENDSHIP" REQUESTS WITHOUT AT THE VERY LEAST HAVING ENGAGED IN SOME DIALOGUE WITH ME. I WILL SIMPLY DELETE AS I EXPECT MORE FROM MY FRIENDS.

I am Toronto-based professional Dominatrix and lifestyle FemDomme Fetishist, Ms. Marina Black. You may have heard of me. Kindly address me as Ms. Black, should you wish to approach.
Friends may, of course call me "Marina".
I have engaged in this way of life for over 2 decades - since I was a very young woman.
I am a woman living this life authentically.

I am a natural dominant - this is not merely some game for me, but woven deeply into my way of life. This is not something I turn on and off.
I do not see submissives as being "less" than Dommes - I see both roles as equal, but opposite sides of the same coin

While I had recently written here that I was seeking a committed, romantic, Mistress/slave relationship, upon reflection I have determined that I need to focus almost exclusively on getting my act together.

I suffer from a condition for which there is no cure - once that can cause me great pain and immense fatigue.
It can be quite debilitating.
At its peak, it virtually paralyzed me - figuratively speaking.

In the last few years I have managed to find the will and strength to engage in practices that have returned to me some strength and energy that I may work at some projects - both creative and entrepreneurial.
I found myself accomplishing more than I had in years.
I reached a plateau, rested on my laurels and didn't apply myself to my self-improvement any further.

Time in meditation over the last few days resulted in what really did feel like a "Eureka!" moment - the realization that I've no business seeking out the most exceptional slave ever, when I personally have a way to go before I may sincerely presume myself close to being one of the most exceptional dommes ever.
I can't just *want* to be the best that I can be, I need to *work* at it constantly.
It is now time to reapply myself and take myself to my next level.

For me to engage in the work I now know without doubt that I must do will require that I become quite focused on myself - on a level that negates the type of Mistress/slave relationship I ultimately want.
I had to delete my previous profile information as I cannot, at this time in my life, expend the energy and focus required on another.

The activities I need devote myself to presently are: exercise, yoga, frequent meditation, deeper study, writing more often and in a more disciplined fashion, improving my website, rebranding my "vanilla business", improving on existing skills, learning new skills, being a better daughter, being a batter sister, being a better friend, being a better community member, being a better domme.
The list may come to grow as I spend more time in meditation.

I am a very lucky woman. Blessed. Believe me, I am grateful.
I have found myself truly amazing friends. Noble, vibrant people who give me support when I need it, inspire me to think and create, people who teach me...
They manage to do all this in the most loving and delightful ways, bringing me joy in the process.
I hope I do this for them too.
I salute you all.
Thank you.

This is what I expect from my friends, because the friends I already have show me that I can.
Anyone approaching with offers of friendship must do so with the intention of living up to that potential.

I welcome offers of service and/or play from people capable of offering me the level of friendship I have grown accustomed to and inspire me to reciprocate.

What I bring to the table ...
My beauty (physical and spiritual), intelligence, wisdom, sincerity, authenticity, high standards and a steadfast expectation of excellence. I also bring my extensive skill-set enhanced by true "perversion", tempered by my sanity, humour, good nature and solid sense of ethics.
In terms of wardrobe, I have a passion for personally-designed latex, leather, custom corsets, tall boots and beautiful high-heeled shoes.

I am a very well-balanced individual and while I am very much a dominant fetishist my life embraces so much more.

Likes: Absolute control, sincere worship, music, days of play, ancient and classical history, sophisticated devices, form AND function, good taste & excellent manners, intelligence, high-end fetish fashion (on a level some may deem obsessive!), authenticity, human and animal rights, travel, art, writing (I write prolifically), nature, saving the planet, hiking, sight-seeing, learning new things that better enable me to express my creativity and be more independent, yoga, fitness, old architecture, beauty in any form, natural medicine vs drugs, celebration.

Dislikes: Poseurs, stinginess, disrespectful people, dishonesty, poor manners, poor taste, novices, self-serving fetishists posing as submissives, being topped from the bottom, illiteracy, bad government, narrow-mindedness, selfishness, unhealthy lifestyle habits, addiction, arrogance, men who confuse service with play, attached men, cross-dressers, sissies, "losers", adult babies, "discrete" relationships, closet-cases, "going dutch", switches, dominants (obviously!), degradation/humiliation, pain-sluts seeking constant attention, scat play, polyamory, instant relationships/intimacy.

My Ideal Person:

Let me first clearly state what I do not wish to see...
If you are the type of person who thinks it is a good idea to post pictures of your genitals in your profile do not contact me.
We do not share the same view of this way of life I love so much.



You do not come with a list of fetishes, but rather seek surrender, obedience and service to someone who has earned your trust.

You do not wear your submissiveness on your sleeve and would not normally be perceived as a submissive.

You are, more than likely, an alpha in your everyday life, seeking to engage with an equal - a difficult find for someone as selective as you.

You don't just "give it away" and are not remotely desperate.
You have achievements you can be proud of, have a solid work-ethic, are goal-oriented, take your health seriously and so you are fit, are attractive (as all good people are naturally beautiful), stylish as you have a real appreciation for the aesthetic, well-groomed, very intelligent (and know it), have great manners and expect the same, have high standards, are cultured, are compassionate and empathic, love animals, love learning about different cultures, are disciplined, are educated, know how to have a good time within reason, are kind, generous and mindful.
You may even have something you may teach me.

You are a hard-worker, but not a workaholic - you know how to plan your time effectively to enable you to meet your goals and still get the down time that you need.
Needless to say, you had better make time for me.

If you wish to be considered as a playmate, understand that I am not into casual play.
You must be capable of the sort of friendship I've already described, must offer some form of service and being fit and attractive will certainly make you more appealing to use as my canvas.

If you cannot offer service and friendship, I am available professionally.


The submissives who will interest me are humble, but not humiliated. They are strong and in possession of a strong sense of self and accomplishment as they are people who accomplish much. Achievers.


You crave a connection with a Woman of Power who will respect, admire and value you.

You understand that service surpasses play or "kink". 

You have actually taken the time to read everything I have written and appreciate that I have taken the time to do so.

Should you wish to approach on any level, kindly send the following:

a clear picture of you (nothing vulgar please)


express what it was about my profile that moved you to making contact


your age


your profession


share with me your level of experience


tell me what it is you have to offer (list your skills and anything else you may deem relevant)


tell me what it is you feel you need to learn from me


tell me what it is you feel that you may teach me


be certain you sign it with respect and therefore with your name and not your handle.



Read every word I've written, as I've chosen each one deliberately.